It’s the most common thing people say to me about foster parenting. That it would be hard to give them back. That saying goodbye, letting them go, would be too hard.

I don’t know about too hard, but I know it’s not easy. If that makes sense.

I also know that if we didn’t do things because they might be hard, we’d never get married or be parents or let our kids get driver’s licenses.

I don’t know if there’s a good way to say goodbye. But I know there are bad ways.

I know that when a kid has lived in your home for almost a year, you shouldn’t have to say goodbye in a parking lot.